Feeling Lost

At different points in basically everyone's life, you are going to feel like you are somehow

lost. This means different things to different people. It could mean being behind, uncertain, or

just having absolutely no idea where your life is going. This is made worse by just looking

around. How on earth does EVERYONE have their lives together? Theyre so perfect. This

feeling is far more common than people think.

Part of the reason this feeling of being lost is so isolating is that it's hard to talk about

and isn't talked about often in an open way. When we look around, we see parts of other

people’s lives that they want us to see. People know this about social media in that not

everyone is on vacation 24/7 or always having lavish dinners. But this idea is true even for

normal social environments, such as school. It’s so easy to feel like others are moving forward

with confidence and clarity, and all we can feel is doubt and uncertainty.

This is especially a problem for young adults because it’s one of the biggest transitions

there is. Not only do you have to balance figuring out your career, but relationships, moving, and

identity itself; it all feels up in the air at times. Doubt is common here, especially related to

asking yourself if YouTube is on the right path, what you actually want, and how on earth

everyone always has their own answers to these questions. One of the biggest problems with

this is that uncertainty is often interpreted as failure instead of a normal part of development and

growth.

Of course, everyone wants to have everything figured out early in life because we don't

want to feel doubt or pressure, but this is not often the case. We try to fix uncertainty as fast as

we can. What often happens in real life is that people gradually begin to find themselves and

their own journey, but not before significant trials and tribulations. For me, this meant going

through a psychology degree I thought was useless. I loved the learning, but midway through

my degree, I couldn't help but wonder if I made the right choice because I had no idea what job I

could even get with my choice. Then doubt came in, did I even pick the right major?

Mental health conversations can help normalize this process of finding oneself and one's

journey. Therapy is not just for people in crisis or dealing with depression. It's about having an

environment in which space is created for you that allows for reflection and exploration of things

like identity, purpose, and direction. Rushing to answers to get out of feeling the pressure or

doubt is common, but is often not the right choice. Uncertainty is inevitable, and therapy is

always available